Living Fully: Joanne’s Cancer Journey
Living Fully with Non-Small Cell Lung Cancer: Joanne’s Story of Hope and Healing
When Joanne was diagnosed with non-small cell lung cancer in 2021, she couldn’t help but ask the same question many patients face: “Why me?” She had lived a healthy lifestyle, exercised, and avoided processed foods, yet found herself retracing her past for answers—secondhand smoke in childhood, brief years of social smoking, exposure to environmental toxins, stress, or perhaps random chance. Her pathology revealed an EGFR mutation, a genetic change often seen in people with little or no smoking history, which allowed her to begin targeted therapy after surgery and chemotherapy.
Over time, Joanne realized that focusing on blame only robs her of peace. Instead, she has chosen to center her life around gratitude, faith, and the love of her husband and community. With new advances in treatment, she believes lung cancer should no longer be viewed as an automatic death sentence or a punishment tied to smoking. Through sharing her story, Joanne hopes to break the stigma, reminding us that compassion and understanding—not judgment—are what every patient deserves. (Source: Joanne Gaget Blog)
Veteran Speaks Out to Save Others
Xavier Sanders spent 14 years proudly serving in the U.S. Air Force. But in 2022, his life changed when doctors discovered stage 4 lung cancer—despite never smoking. The cancer had already spread to his liver and brain. Now, Xavier is using his voice to speak out about the urgent need for earlier detection, better support, and more awareness—especially for service members exposed to burn pits and toxic chemicals during deployment.
He’s not just fighting for himself. Xavier is advocating for younger airmen who may not know what symptoms to watch for or how to get the right care. His wife, Chelsea, has become his strongest advocate—reminding others that “mental toughness” can sometimes hide real suffering. Together, they’re pushing for change in how military members with cancer are seen, heard, and supported.
Now a passionate advocate, Xavier is using his story and his brand, Trillionaires Only, to inspire others to fight with authenticity, courage, and hope. “Every day is a new day to fight,” he says. “We can’t afford to stay quiet.” (Source: Xavier’s Story, March 2024)
The Power of Friendship When Facing Cancer
When you’re walking through something as overwhelming as cancer, one of the most powerful lifelines you can hold onto is this: you don’t have to walk it alone.
I’m Dr. Sharon May with Stage4Hope, and I want to share two important truths backed by research—and rooted in real-life experience—that can bring you comfort and strength:
- Good friends truly matter.
- A positive mindset can make all the difference.
We already know that going through something difficult with a friend by your side makes it easier. But science now confirms this truth in a profound way. In Dr. James Coan’s research, people were given mild electric shocks—yes, you read that right!—but when they held the hand of someone they deeply cared about, the stress response in their brain significantly decreased. The pain was more bearable simply because someone they loved was there.
That’s the power of presence.
Another powerful study published in Psycho-oncology (2010) followed cancer survivors for eight years. They found that those who received meaningful emotional support just three months after their diagnosis experienced post-traumatic growth—they were better emotionally, mentally, and spiritually years later. Support doesn’t just help in the moment—it shapes how you move through your cancer journey and who you become on the other side.
So what does this mean for you?
It means you need people. And they need you, too.
Here are a few thoughts I hope will encourage you:
- Reach out to two or three friends. Keep those friendships going. Be intentional. Let the conversation be mutual—yes, talk about your cancer journey, but also listen your friend’s everyday stories. Friendship flows both ways.
- Join a group. If you didn’t have many close connections at the start of your journey, it’s never too late. A support group creates a place to belong, to connect, and to share with people who understand. You can also begin by joining one of our virtual women’s retreats. With gentle teaching and encouraging community you will find friendship and strength for your journey.
- Teach your friends how to walk this road with you. It’s okay to tell them what’s helpful and what’s not. Sometimes they won’t know what to say—help them out. You’ll learn together.
- Teach your family how to be there with you. This journey is difficult for both you and your family. Your family will go between grief for you and grief for themselves. Which means your spouse or children will, at times, struggle with their own emotions of fears, anger, depression, loss and grief. And for certain your family will not always say the most comforting things nor be there the way you hope. They will probably disappoint you leaving you hurt and maybe alone. Families are complicated, but now is the time to let go of resentment and small irritations. Make an effort to be there for each other, one struggle at a time, one day at a time. If it gets too complicated, reach out for professional help from a counselor or relationship coach.
- Keep being you. Cancer may be part of your story right now, but it is not the whole story. You are still you—funny, strong, sensitive, quirky, wise. Hold onto your identity and let it shine in your relationships.
- Stay connected to your world. You still have a family, a neighborhood, hobbies and routines. Keep participating in what makes life rich and meaningful. You have so much to give—and receive.
- Don’t isolate. This is the hardest part for some. But I gently encourage you: risk reaching out. Let someone be there for you. Hold someone’s hand—literally or figuratively. It truly makes a difference.
I’m cheering you on, friend. You are not alone. And here at Stage4Hope, we’re walking alongside you every step of the way.
If you’re looking for connection, encouragement, and growth, I invite you to join our upcoming women’s virtual retreat. It’s a time to rest, be renewed, and find community with other brave women walking their own journeys.
Reach out—we’d love to hear from you.
Author- Dr. Sharon May
The Importance of Social Support and Being Positive When Facing Cancer
- (2010, January 19). Type of social support matters for prediction of post-traumatic growth among cancer survivors.
- Coan, J.A., Schaefer, H.S., & Davidson, R.J. (2006). Lending a hand: Social regulation of the neural response to threat. Psychological Science.
Tejal’s Story: Strength in the Fight
When Tejal Patel was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, it was a shock, especially since she never smoked and lives a healthy lifestyle. The diagnosis felt isolating, bringing confusion and stigma, as many still wrongly assume lung cancer is caused by lifestyle choices. But Tejal found determination in her fight—not just to live and watch her twin boys grow up, but also to raise awareness and break the stigma, especially for women like her in the South Asian community.
Tejal credits the Lung Cancer Research Foundation (LCRF) for vital support and hope. Through funding life-changing research, including early detection methods and new treatments, LCRF is helping improve survival and quality of life for lung cancer patients. Tejal’s story is a powerful reminder that lung cancer can affect anyone and that ongoing research and community support are essential to keep advancing care and offering hope. (Source: Lung Cancer Research Foundation)
Breaking the Stigma Around Lung Cancer
More than half of people with lung cancer report feeling judged or blamed by friends, family, and even healthcare providers. Because lung cancer has long been linked to smoking, many assume it’s the patient’s fault. But the reality is different: anyone with lungs can develop lung cancer, including those who have never smoked or who quit years ago.
Stigma doesn’t just hurt feelings—it can actually keep people from getting screened or treated promptly, harming their health. Experts emphasize that lung cancer is no one’s fault; nicotine addiction is difficult to overcome, and no patient deserves blame. Recognizing and reducing lung cancer stigma helps ensure all patients receive the compassion and medical support they deserve. (Source: Memorial Sloan Kettering)
